I have always struggled with being 'Body Confident' from a young age I was very skinny, up until I hit puberty I was a skinny cow then all of a sudden it felt over night even I gained a lot of weight, I remember being in new look and my friends were still buying New Look kids clothes and I was a size 12 in adult clothes. It was horrid - And I was 14.
I never did any sports at school, My parents never forced me - they never over fed me either, I did that by myself sneaking chocolate bars and packets of crisps and drinking about three cans of coke a day!
I never knew until I got to about 17 that I was on the larger side. throughout school like most girls I fluctuated but was always big. I was bullied and it sucked, I never had a boyfriend and when I did start to loose weight when I was about 15 I was made fun of because the 'Popular girls' thought it would be funny. And the cycle continues and I comfort ate and all of a sudden I was 16 years old weighing nearly 13 stone.
When I left school, I left most people behind, even with new people around and feeling like I was very old I decided it was now time to sort myself out. I remember hitting the gym with a friend, swimming, doing Zumba and spin cycle classes. I did the works.
From 17 up till I was 19 I think I joined about 3 different gyms and managed to shift about a stone in that time and thats when the drinking started. I went out two times a week without fail probably until I was twenty-two - eating rubbish, drinking loads of alcohol and smoking. I was so unhealthy, I used to think that dancing in club was exercise - Oh no - Its not!
To go back I started seeing someone (who I am still with) We were both avid weekenders and wouldn't miss a night out for anything. He is a skinny, athletic male who would drink and never put on weight. I was the total opposite. In my eyes he was another guy - who turned out to be a very special person. We had a lot of ups and downs and by the time I was twenty-two I realised I needed to sort myself out. I didn't feel like I was a kid and I was so fed up of feeling low about my weight. I would go out with him and would see myself as this whale and even though he didn't make me feel big I thought I need to stop.
All of a sudden I was back unto 13 stone, I remember crying on the scales thinking why am I doing this to myself. I would look at photos and if anyone has seen The Duff you would know what I mean - I was - I AM THE DUFF!
I began to stop going out which meant I cut out alcohol which helped the bloat and this also meant I wasn't eating rubbish. I cut out negative people who were bad influences and I began to be happier.
I still couldn't look at myself in the mirror. All I could see were rolls, stretch marks and cellulite which was a painful reminder of how much i'd let myself go over the years.
2014 rolled around and I started training Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, a martial art which literally changes your life if you let it. This was something I enjoyed which was nothing like being at the gym, you have your own community and I have made some of the most incredible friends and learnt valuable lessons about lifestyle choices which I will speak about in another post but I thought this was going to change my life and it has.
About a year ago I noticed I lost about 2 stone and I felt amazing, But then I noticed something, My breasts had gone from a DD to a B and they were basically like a sack of marbles. It was always one thing started to feel good and something else ruined it. It was only until recently I was set on getting my breasts lifted so they didn't look how they did, because I didn't feel sexy and thats something every woman should feel.
Then all of a sudden I realised. IT DOESN'T MATTER! I have learnt how to love myself which has probably been something I have never been able to do in the Twenty-Four years I have been alive!
I am not saying I have shredded LOADS of weight and I am now a stick. I have rolls, the stretch marks are still there, my legs jiggle when I was and my arms aren't toned and beautiful
I never realised it was possible to love myself without having a flat tummy, toned legs and arms with perfect hair and skin because I am the best version of me I can be and thats all that matters.
My journey has been weird and I hope if anyone reads this and feels like they are stuck in a rut they realise they're not and that your perfect the way you are. If your young and want to change yourself think you have your whole life ahead of you to be YOU and the version of YOU, you want to be.
Im still figuring it all out, I don't mean to sound like I'm saying I've lost weight now I'm amazing, Im saying I've tried, Ive gone up and down in weight and now Ive realised I'm not going to be skinny but I am going to be me... rolls and stretch marks and all....
Kerry x